What's your Jung typology? ;-)

Since moving to Portland I have realized there are important questions to ask before pursuing a boy:

1. Are you married? (and yes if the paperwork has not been filled you ARE still married

2. Do you have a girlfriend? (yes it counts even if they are on a different continent)

3. Are you one of those artistic-over emotional boys that put you on speaker phone instead of mute to talk about you in front of your friends and then make long embarrassing phone calls back to try to rectify your mistake?

4. Do you live in NW? (I am making a point not to date anyone in my hood because I see the same people ALL the time)

5. What's your Jung typology?

Mr. "I have a girlfriend but she lives in S. America" is actually a pretty cool guy and turns out a great resource for Pulitzer quality books and insights into my soul. Hence, question number five - my new pick up line!

So said guy had me take this online quiz (which I have taken before but at a non-reflective time in my life) and since then I have done a bit of research into my results. Turns out they are pretty dead on. It bodes poorly for me in the future because it is likely I will never be satisfied but there is a good chance that I will help others find the satisfaction they are seeking!

I was once asked to write an essay describing myself and mine was entitled "The Catalyst". I have a penchant for metaphors and analogies so it was only natural that I spoke of myself in a detached type of way. The catalyst is nothing on its own...full of possibilities but worthless if isolated from the world. It is drawn to those that need a spark to reach their potential. Being a catalyst can be one of the most satisfying things in this world because you can step back and say "I helped make that happen" However in this world there are promotors (accelerates the catalyst) and inhibitors (stunts the catalyst).

I spent the last 6 years of my life with an inhibitor. I didn't realize it until last night. Talking to a friend that I recently met that talked about how full of life and energy I was and I realized that those words would not be used to describe me for the past 5 years. The 22 years before and the past 6 months yes. But there is a part of my life that I was so bogged down with self doubt and insecurity and focusing on making one person happy that the catalyst in me went dead.....or so I thought.

Luckily I met promotors that were so awesome and so powerful that they erased 5 years of stagnation with one swoop of friendship. Leaving them (and my family) was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life but I know that they will ALWAYS be a part of my life even if 90% of our communication is through Facebook or emotional phone calls. I love you guys and would convince a guy to take a bullet for any of you (right Ren?)

So back to the Jung. The real problem I am facing is that the person I match up with the best (they gave me 2 options but the first one and I would totally butt heads!) is only found in less than 1 percent of the population. So every time I meet a guy I know that there is a 99% chance he is not the one - I don't know about you but if someone says there is a 99% chance of sunshine I leave my umbrella at home. Does that mean that I should end my idyllic quest to meet my perfect match that will wander the world with me in search of beauty and truth? Am I really that confident that I will find that one in a hundred guy that will make me quit looking for something better?

Maybe that is why I meet 20 new friends everytime I go out. I was described by someone as a human Facebook. When I go out I tend to "add as friend" without the fear that they might rather stick with what they have. But just maybe one of these "add as friends" will be a promotor: the maid of honor at my wedding, godmother of my child, the publisher of my first book, the love of my life! All because of four little words: "we should be friends"

You might think that it is really lame or that your life is not able to be summed up by four little letters but you are wrong. Take the test (it is REALLY short) and then leave a comment to let me know what you are! It will let people know just how to love/support/encourage you best!